EFT Therapy for Couples

Relationship Therapy that Creates Supportive Bonds

What is EFT?

Therapy that creates supportive emotional bonds which promote healing.

EFT helps you learn how to focus on being emotionally present with your spouse. You’ll learn to explore what’s really going on inside of you, underneath your reactive emotions that disguise what you're really experiencing. 

EFT addresses those questions that resonate in our hearts as we consider our most precious relationships:

  • “Do I really matter to you?”

  • “Can I depend on you when I need you?”

  • “Is our marriage relationship safe and secure enough for me to be open and honest with you?”

Answers to these questions give insight to the strength of our relational bond.

Our fear of a “no” answer to one of these questions can cause us to go into survival mode and grasp at any solution available or to simply put our head in the sand and pretend that it doesn’t exist. We fight or we withdraw.

EFT is an evidenced-based model of therapy grounded upon the principles of attachment theory that talk about the intimate bonds we need to have healthy relationships. These relational bonds that we developed as a child and continue to need as an adult shape who we are and how we see others.

When the answers to the questions are “yes”…

…Both spouses are there for each other and can be counted on for comfort during times of difficulty. They are each other’s safe place. The unknown can be confronted because they are not alone, their spouse is with them to help; they can face the unknown together. When a spouse is present for the other during a time of need, the emotional bond between them is strengthened.     

EFT has proven successful with diverse populations and for various presenting problems such as anxiety, depression, and childhood trauma. Research on EFT has shown that 70-75% of couples recover from distress and create secure connections and 90% show significant improvement.

Takeaways with EFT

Emotions are used as a principal avenue of change. The therapist helps each spouse decipher, expand, and learn to regulate their emotions and, in turn, to share them vulnerably with their spouse. A new adaptive pattern develops:

Accessibility

When spouses increase empathy for each other, seek out comfort from each other when needed.

Responsiveness

When they respond to each other’s bids for connection. 

Engagement

When both spouses are accessible and responsive to each other a new pattern of engagement is learned that provides a safe haven of comfort and support creating a strong emotional bond.

There is a way to say “yes” to your most important relationship questions. Find out how.