My office is a safe place to work toward making that hope a reality. Working towards this starts by understanding where each of you are and empowering each partner in the marriage to take ownership of their own moves in the negative dance that has led to this disconnect. As a therapist, I use EFT to reveal what’s going on in the “negative dance” and how each partner can learn new steps toward healing.

Does this sound familiar?  

You feel disconnected and alone so you reach out. Your spouse doesn’t respond in the way you want and perhaps gets defensive. You feel not heard, so you try harder to explain only to find your spouse shutting down, maybe even ignoring you. This causes more distress and the negative dance goes on and on in an unending cycle. 

You never get to the deep emotions in your soul. Instead, you’re both just reacting to hide what’s really inside. These reactive emotions are the music that drive the negative dance. Let’s change the music.

Your negative dance, not your spouse, is the enemy of your relationship and that’s what I’m here to help you work on. Both of you, in your own way, are trying to protect your relationship yet it’s getting you just the opposite of what you want. 

Let me help you get in step to work against your negative dance and have a different way of relating to each other. To experience bonding moments in my office so that the music is not the cacophony of disconnection but rather the harmony of connection.